Origins of Gender Wars
|Prehistoric People had to mate, or we wouldn't be here, and if they had
relationships they must have had the equivalent family-problems...
The War of the Sexes has many names, Marital Conflicts,
Relationship Problems, Gender Wars, etc, depending on who is
fighting and whether the battle is taking place over the kitchen
table, in a court of law or in the street, with loudspeakers,
The expression "opposites attract each other" hardly explains why Men & Women were at war before
they walked upright, or had words to argue with. But the fact
that they are NATURAL RIVALS makes it clear!
RELATING is difficult business.
Any society—regardless of material progress or social
evolution—must run into similar problems, for one reason
above all else: the necessity to comply with
Existing involves a permanent relationship
with everything. This is the only inescapable obligation we have
from birth to death. But RELATING is more difficult than anything
else, and we struggle in survival for this reason more than all
others combined!—to a point where
many traditions see death as bliss, "because no one can nag at you, anymore!" ... More importantly, life ceases to be when the network of relationships
cannot function anymore! On this
account, just how a FOETUS manages to sustain life while being
cut from it for 9 months remains a scientific mystery. The mother
makes this miracle possible, of course, but leaving it at that
isn't much of a contribution in real life—especially when
we know that life begins in a womb... Freud was fascinated by mothers more than by
women—probably because they are the ones that carry a
promise of paradise inside them and the others often forget that
they do!... [LAMPATA].
He also got hooked on Mums for a clinical
reason: a pregnant woman makes it
possible for the baby in her womb to interact with life in total
while remaining unaffected by any part of it. [FREUDIANA]
"Opposites attract each
||Males & Females are different
as two races of people, one with biological features from another
planet, the other with the mentality from somewhere else—and
with all this, you can never tell who belongs here!... For all you
know, if you're a bloke, if Adam was here first—you're stuck
with a Mate from Outerspace!... And if you're a girl at times you'll
be telling yourself that Men, surely, are the strangers, though
Eve only came on a second call!...
We get along by virtue of our
differences, rather than merely being attracted by opposite
GENDER ATTRACTION is a subject all its own. For starters, it
works better if you're a Man looking at a Woman, and not at all
the other way around...
A Woman's feeling of attraction begins when
she goes into the wardrobe, or whenever she sees her own
reflection. As Women see it, Beauty is not in the eye of the
beholder—it works, if it's not
If you're a fellow, all attraction stops with
a shave first thing in the morning—compared to what you see
in the mirror, you'll be thinking of a relationship for the rest
of the day!
In other words, you'll want one of them all to yourself,
whatever it takes—give up warfare, even!...
Which is why God gave Eve pleasing features—He realised
that Adam had taken to quarreling with the Devil, for lack of
something attractive to look at!... GIRLS have beauty—because the two fellows without
charm would have destroyed Eden in no time...
Note in passing that Satan is capable of
charming anyone on sight—especially by providing a sense
of appeal Men often dismiss as secondary, which makes them
insipid, and eventually fanatisable, and Women either fail or
refuse to acknowledge in themselves, which makes them
absent-minded and eventually vain.
||Man & Woman are (1) NATURAL COMPLEMENTS, owing to
opposite attraction, and (2) NATURAL RIVALS in that they repel
one another with as much force as went into the
This repelling is not caused by chemistry, it
is a calculated choice. DIVORCE is
not an instinct —we get into it,
and as mean as lynching!...
Gender-Rivalry is serious business beyond a
split, it is the basis of every social malfunction.Whether we are natural rivals or naturally
stupid, we spend the best of our time trying to justify why we
should disband, rather than for ways to enhance harmony.
The best part of it is, we call it harmony
when we have nothing to complain about! As if happiness were an
absence of insecurity... This recipe
for bliss barely keeps our world spinning in an illusion of going
Positive goals based on a negative reaction of fear keep
producing a positive imitation of something negative, basically—and
it's a miracle when things don't turn to disaster!
Whoever still goes about teaching this GOAL-SETTING formula
probably believes that we're looking
good because things could be worse!...
We are Intimate Laggards, that's what it
is, and we are covering it up with a hectic pace of
We tell ourselves that our targets are moving
too fast for us, whence the inordinate increase of speed. The
problem is that past a point,
acceleration will keep producing diminished returns.
This negative approach to a positive goal
pretty well describes where the War
of the Sexes is at: we comply, walk on
our hands to please the other party, we are really trying to get
some understanding between us—but we do all this to AVOID
fighting!... We haven't realised, HAPPINESS is to be sought for itself, not as a
convenience or protection against the lack of it.
To be continued...
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